Chapter 3 Flowers and honeybees

by Amarie
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Women are flowers and men are honeybees. When I say so, I might get argued by some female feminists. However, I still dare to say, "Women are flowers and men are honeybees".

Like Nora from "A Doll's House" who got released from the feudal-society-like home to the world outside, women today are more educated and be able to take greater part of the modern society It was a significant process and important path for women to learn independent mind and free will.

However, it seems that as highly educated women who fight against men in competitive society earn more status and money, the number of lonely women has increased.

At the same time, there is the movement of return of maternal mind to emphasize the importance of the meaning of women giving birth to and raising children in their arms. As well as the importance of giving birth and nursing which only women can do, it is now also re-evaluated the meaning of the maternal way of protecting and constructing society, which is the core essence of "The Law of Women" of Lemuria Renaissance.

However, we are in such an era that a super house wife is praised who does housework, raises children and works in the business world all at the same time. When I heard this, I thought it shouldn't be just a house wife who does everything, but her husband and children should help her also, otherwise she'll get burnt out.

I once participated in a seminar by such a super house wife before, and as she talked, I was surprised to find out how understanding and helpful her husband was rather than how great she was, in comparison to my case, I was surprised by our difference the most.

However, she also mentioned that she was actually divorced few times before and I thought despite her husband's cooperation, she might not last long to be a super house wife. Even if she's determined to become one, it wouldn't be an exemplary model without her husband understanding.

Women used to be unfairly oppressed not to think freely with free will, but now they are ready to live their own lives. However, they won't find real happiness if they unfairly force their demands to men, depriving their free will like the same way men used to do to women.

Women and men have different fundamental characters which are Yin and Yang energy of the universe created by God. Without the understanding of the different nature and just by insisting their demands to each other, they cannot be happy together. It's important that they first accept their real selves to each other.

The Feminism movement today is at one step above of their own awakening and independence level, that is to have men understand women's nature, because women will be burn out if they just work hard recklessly without men's understanding. In order to understand the nature of women and men, one will have to understand Yin and Yang of the universe.

A few might feel against the description, women are flowers and men are honeybees, but there are thousands of different flowers, big and small with different colors, showy kinds like roses, lilies and peonies, and other modest kinds like wildflowers. Like those flowers, women can express themselves in their own ways.

The bees also range from dangerous carpenter bees to harmless honeybees. The characters are varied but flowers are flowers and bees are bees by nature which also applies to the human gender, and without accepting this fact, women and men can never understand each other and appreciate their roles and values.

What it means by saying that women are flowers is that the women are here to express beauty who dress beautifully possessing delicious honey to attract bees. It is not their nature to have legs and follow bees around.

It is great that women have better education, better income and more confident today, but some of the flowers disgracefully follow bees around and try to control things when they should attract them just by dressing beautifully, giving out nice scent and making delicious honey. Bees who have been admiring the beautiful flowers will become frightened to see them like that, and try to run away desperately. The harder women try, the more desperately men run away like a horror movie and that only creates more lonely women in the end.

I sincerely hope all the lonely women in their forties be happy, so would like to give them advice that even if they succeed in business, earn status and freedom, they should never push men the same way in a relationship.

Happiness is to love and to be loved. She should not follow him everywhere or tries to control him just because she's in love with him and not think about what he feels about her, he'll just leave her in the end. So, in order to be loved by someone you love, please leave your ego behind, accept his needs to be understood, strengthen his strong points, open his spirituality and create happiness together with him, otherwise, women cannot find happiness.

Every flower is so beautiful. The secrets of their beauty are that they're just being themselves. Bees get attracted to their lovely beings, come and take some honey and pollinate them in return.

Romanticism seems to be different between men and women. Men are rational and their romanticism is to protect delicate women. The Yang consciousness of male gender opens up by doing so.

Women are irrational but extremely realistic because it's their instinct to raise children. Women's romanticism is to dream a prince on a white horse will come and marry them. I think this might be the main cause of all the trouble in relationship.

Women should try to act like they need to be protected even when they don't want to, because men can only have a dream when they're in need and feel it's their mission to protect women.

Men lose their confidence, their necessity and meaning of existence to protect women when they feel defeated by modern womenfs educational back ground, high income and logic of equal rights. When women see men like that, they think, "Oh, he can't be the prince I'm waiting for," and wait for a prince of her dream forever, unable to get married.

No one's perfect, so please try to accept weakness and imperfection of each other and live together. You can't notice your partner if you just wait for the red thread but you'll have to haul it. Even if a bee is on the petal of the flower, the flower won't be able to meet the bee if she doesn't open up and see him.